Why Keeping Your Pagan Identity a Secret is a Good Idea

Paganism is a concept that is not well understood by most laypeople. If you tell someone in an offhand way ‘I’m a Pagan’, there’s a good chance that you’ll spend a lot of time assuring them that you don’t worship Satan. This routine might be fine when you’re coming out of the broom closet to an old friend but might be awkward when your boss asks you why you’re Religion on Facebook is ‘Pagan’. Here are some reasons why creating a secret identity for your Pagan postings is a good idea.

You can be yourself

Most people find Paganism after struggling through a religion that told them how to behave, who to worship, and what was or wasn’t allowed. Paganism encourages freedom and nowhere is this more important than having the freedom to be yourself. When you post on Facebook about your altar you don’t have to worry about an employer misunderstanding you or a family member condemning your choices. You can celebrate an important part of your life free from the judgments of others.

You can connect with like-minded individuals – without reservation

Wishing you could tell other Pagans you’re going to Sabermoon’s Dark Moon Ritual or show support for a Pagan cause without wondering if it will get back to you? With a secret identity you can do these things because only people that you trust know your secret identity. Sabermoon’s posts never appear on your real Facebook page and tweets about the Pagan club you joined don’t show up in your feed. You can engage in discussions about using cauldrons during a ritual without snide references to MacBeth’s witches (humorous references are allowed of course).

You can work toward coming out of the broom closet

If what you want more than anything is to be accepted for who you truly are I have some advice – be patient! As they say Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is acceptance. It would be great if people could accept us and our choices right off the bat, but humans aren’t built that way. These things take time and a separate account allows you to slowly figure out who will accept this part of yourself.

A Caveat

It could be said that having two separate accounts – one for your business life and one for your religious life – is anything but being yourself. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with fully embracing your religious identity. If you feel comfortable enough to let everyone know that you’re a Pagan then please do so! Spread the word! 🙂

However, some people feel uncomfortable with mentioning their religious beliefs, whether because their family is not supportive or they’re career field is slow to accept Paganism. We live in a society that doesn’t quite understand Paganism – and that’s ok. As time goes on and the world becomes more and more accepting Paganism being accepted as a viable religion will just be part of this growth.

This post represents my opinion on the matter and how I feel about the situation. If you have other feelings about the matter, let us know in the comments!

One Comment Add yours

  1. These are all reasonable points. I would point out however that the quickest way to prop up the stigma surrounding alternative religions is to keep them secret. By doing so, we reinforce the belief, among ourselves and those outside our community, that we have something to hide. Being up-front about our beliefs helps to normalize them in the eyes of our friends and associates.
    This is not to say that we need to go shouting our spiritual identity into everyone faces either. If we don’t make a big deal out of it (by either hiding it or handing out promotional leaflets) it may not seem like such a big deal.
    As always, you milage may vary, and everyone must assess their own unique circumstances.

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